Blogger Rejection

Blogger Rejection

I pretty much only know what day of the week it is right now by which blog is on my linkup schedule.  Which means today is Thursday and it’s time to linkup with Amanda at Running with Spoons for

 

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As you can tell, from the title of my post, I’m gonna talk about blogger rejection; a topic of which I am becoming an expert.  Actually, no, if I were an expert on the subject, I’d probably have a better blog, and thus, be less rejected.

ANYhoo, there’s probably few things in the world that feel as horrible as rejection, am I right?  Let’s face it, we all have dealt with rejection in one form or another in our lives. If you haven’t, you scare me, but I also want to drink the water running from your taps.

Some of us deal with rejection constantly.

I became very upset the other day when my writing was “passive aggressively” rejected from a popular blogging website.  Seriously, I’ve been blogging for almost two years, and yet, I feel time and time again that I must be doing something wrong.  

I read blog posts about improving readership, content, photography, Pinterest, Instagram, and Twitter.

I make changes.  I do what I think is supposed to help things improve.  Sometimes I see improvement.   Sometimes I don’t.

I know by my blog analytics that my mine isn’t the WORST blog on the planet.  Okay, I don’t know this, but, I guess that it is not. However, multiple times I have tried to go after being part of something that fellow bloggers are part of, but I get shot down.

 

 

It hurts.

I put a lot of time and energy into blogging.  We all do.  Yes, I do it because I enjoy it, but also because it’s something that I would love to possibly become a source of livelihood for me at some stage.  I never assumed it would happen overnight, but it’s super frustrating all the same. That’s the dream though, isn’t it?  Doing what you want and making a few beans too?

I constantly tell myself that as long as I’m happy and I feel content, nothing else matters.  However, you know, if you’re a blogger as well, that it, well, fucking sucks, when you hear that your content is not “a good match.”  Or that the business you wanted to work with says you don’t “meet the standards they must pride themselves on” otherwise known as “we can’t mutually earn money off using your space because it sucks.”  Seriously, wtf?  It’s pretty harsh.

Literally how I feel about my blog right now.

But, despite the tears (and I did cry about it),  I love to write and love to blog, so the people who love me are going to love me, and that’s all I care about.  Anything else will make me lose sight of what my passion is, and that’s something that only I get a say over.  

 

Have you suffered from “blogger rejection”?  How do you recover from a setback?  Wanna give me a hug?beetsperminute-post-signature

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39 Comments

  1. April 23, 2015 / 12:16 pm

    {{{hugs}}}

    I agree with Ms. Rowling. If you put yourself out there, you’re going to get rejected, but if you don’t you’ll never get anywhere.

    Sorry you had to go through this. It hurts, I know (been there!). Don’t give up though.

    • April 23, 2015 / 12:26 pm

      Thanks Debbie! I know I’m being a bit of a baby, but it almost feels like not getting picked for a team or committee in high school sometimes! UGH. I’m just going to keep going though, you’ve gotta try! Thanks for the HUGS [[[]]]] 🙂

  2. April 23, 2015 / 12:50 pm

    Aww lady, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Big hugs <3

    Rejection is definitely a tough pill to swallow… right up there with criticism. I've had to deal with my fair share of both over the years, and while I can't say I've enjoyed them, they've definitely made me a lot stronger and more determined. A lot of the most successful people have had to overcome tonnes of rejection and setbacks, and those always make the best success stories 🙂

    • April 23, 2015 / 12:56 pm

      Thanks, Amanda! I admire your supportive words, because you’re one of many bloggers I look up to as “where I would like to be!” I know that rejection and criticism are things that are required for growth, and that’s something I’ve always struggled with. It’s like writing a rough draft and thinking it’s the best thing you’ve ever written, it never is and there’s always room to grow and expand on ideas.
      I’ll be fine, just gotta get on with it and keep going! 🙂

  3. April 23, 2015 / 1:16 pm

    I’m so sorry about your ‘rejection,’ although in my opinion THEY are the ones losing out!! I totally get where you’re coming from. Time after time i remind myself that it is a work in progress, and I can’t compare myself to others (although i do it ALL the time anyway). Keep your chin up and keep writing good content! It will all come together one day 🙂

    • April 23, 2015 / 1:22 pm

      You’re so sweet, Beverley! <3 I feel like they are losing out too! We all compare ourselves to others in good ways and destructive ways -- it's human nature, unfortunately. I am going to keep my chin up for sure and keep at it. Nothing worthwhile in life comes easy, does it? 🙂

  4. April 23, 2015 / 2:26 pm

    Yup yup and yep. I don’t handle rejection well, so I rarely put myself “out there”.. and my entire day is ruined when a blog post doesn’t do as well. Sad, right? lol… – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com

    • April 23, 2015 / 3:41 pm

      Like your posts don’t do well! lol It’s just that it takes hard work and sometimes you feel SO proud of something and then …meh. Oh well, not every day can be “on” I suppose. Let’s drink lol kidding …well not really…

  5. April 23, 2015 / 2:36 pm

    I could go with so many cliches here, but I am going to just say this: getting diverted from one path will simply lead you to another, and it is there that you make your greatness. But with regards to just flat our rejection? Heck YEAH it hurts! But that is ok, it means that you still love and value what you do. Otherwise? You wouldn’t care. So push on!!!

    • April 23, 2015 / 3:43 pm

      I know you’re right! There have been plenty of times I thought, “this is it. this is the end” and then something great comes along. My husband is proof of that! I used to be a quitter, but I’m not a quitter now. Just going to fight my fight,Susie! Thank you!

  6. April 23, 2015 / 3:47 pm

    I know exactly how you feel Erin! You see other bloggers up there, some who have blogged for a lot less time and they seem to have achieved success overnight – you can’t help but compare and try to work out what has gone wrong. But it will all come together and your path in the world will become clear – and the great thing is we are learning all along the way!

    • April 23, 2015 / 3:53 pm

      This is very true, Jen! It’s super frustrating, but it’s been really sweet to get nice encouragement about it and that I’m not alone in feeling this way. The other day I saw that FitFluential had your PHAT protein ball recipe. That’s rad! Also, they sounded really yummy!

      p.s. We need to get a drink! 😉

  7. April 23, 2015 / 3:50 pm

    Blogger rejection does hurt!!! I’ve been there!!! 🙂 The most important part…is to keep trying – even though it hurts! 🙂 HUGS!

    • April 23, 2015 / 4:16 pm

      Thanks, Chelsea — I know I can’t give up! Thanks for the hug! 🙂

  8. April 23, 2015 / 6:10 pm

    I just have to keep putting myself out there and eventually something will stick. I email and get in contact with a lot of people and sometimes it just doesn’t pan out. Then I want to jump to the fact that I am horrible and no one likes me, but I know that that’s not true. It’s picking myself up and continuing to fight the good fight that keeps me moving forward. You can do it!

    • April 23, 2015 / 9:03 pm

      You’re awesome Erin, so I have to believe that if you struggle too, it’s gotta be just plain tough out there. You are inspiring and doing so well. I really look up to you as a motivator! Thanks for the support! 🙂

  9. April 23, 2015 / 6:27 pm

    I fell in love with blogging just recently and it was my outlet then the more I read others I see where I could make money, I mean wouldn’t that be great I’m doing something I love and getting paid. But it is a lot of work. I sometimes will put my blogging before my family which I totally should not do but you have only so many hours in the day and with a full time job, exercise time it really doesn’t allow for extra’s sometimes. I use to stress so about my stats but heck It is what it is and I do have a small following, everyone I have met through my blog as been very nice only a few made me feel unworthy. I hope things work out for you and you continue to keep blogging!

    • April 23, 2015 / 9:06 pm

      Thank you, Tricia! It is so much work and it is something that people who don’t blog don’t get. It seems like we’re just putting our whole lives into it so when something upsetting does happen it’s so emotional! Good for you that you have an outlet and that it’s working out for you, and you’re right, following the stats can be too discouraging at times. I am going to continue to blog, I love it too much to let a couple of snags get me down! Thanks for your kind words of encouragement!

  10. April 23, 2015 / 6:49 pm

    Aw Erin! I think your blog is fantastic and I’m sending a virtual hug. I feel rejected too sometimes, but screw ’em if they don’t want you! Their loss 🙂

    • April 23, 2015 / 9:08 pm

      Thanks Gretchen! That’s so very kind of you to say and yeah, if people want to reject us, it really is their loss!

  11. April 23, 2015 / 7:02 pm

    First things first: feel a big hug coming at you right NOW.
    I’m sorry you had to make the painful experience that is rejection. Trust me I know how much it hurts. Especially once you start comparing and thinking “but why did [insert name of blogger] get accepted and I didn’t???”.It’s the old game of ‘you win some, you loose some’ so if it didn’t work out this time I’m convinced you’ll get your chance at some point in the future. Also, I’m easily taking things personally but keep reminding myself that the people responsible for applications likely just had a very short glimpse at my blog. They have to scan such a lot of material that it would be impossible for them to get a thorough impression of every applicant. Don’t give up hope! We as readers wouldn’t come back if we didn’t enjoy your writing.

    • April 23, 2015 / 9:13 pm

      Thank you so much for the HUG and the kind words. I am so pleased that people took me up on the virtual hugging, because I totally feel the love! You’re right, another opportunity will present itself and it’s not something I should hang up my “blogging hat” over. I can be overly sensitive when it comes to stuff that I’m really passionate about. So, when I pour my heart into a piece and then it’s like “um, yeah, better luck next time” — it totally sucks! However, you’re right there’s so many people out there wanting a shot so it’s tough to really see what somebody really has to offer, but that being said, I know that eventually I will get my chance. Thanks so much again, this totally made my day!

  12. April 23, 2015 / 8:47 pm

    Oh girl, I feel you on this one. Every now and then I do the dreaded comparing. Like comparing my blog to someone who started at the exact same time as I did and yet they are the guest editor of a major fitness magazine. When I read some of these clearly gigantic blogs they are talking about what toppings they put on their salad at the local buffet! Maybe I need to change up my brand! I should be focusing more on mini corn and croutons instead of fitness and quality of life! Not that it would get you much business, but you are welcome to come and guest post on my site at any time. I would be honored!

    • April 23, 2015 / 9:15 pm

      Lisa — you’re so sweet! I would love to guest post. I would be honored to do so! I totally get it too about some of the big commercial blogs or magazine blogs, it seems like it’s the same blog topic recycled every few months. We just need to be true to ourselves and not worry about what everybody else is doing! I had my little moment with this post, but now I’m going to get focused and regroup! <3

      • April 23, 2015 / 9:31 pm

        Definitely stay true to yourself- you have so much to offer the world- your life isn’t Wonder White Bread, it’s whole Wheat with so many interesting things to talk about. Wonder Bread might sell more, but I personally don’t care for it, and know many who feel the same– don’t sell yourself out. Just keep doing what your doing!

        • April 24, 2015 / 5:25 am

          Yes, Lisa, I’d rather be wheat! Lol. I’ve never wanted to be a sell out either. I have truly taken your advice to heart. <3

  13. April 24, 2015 / 1:19 am

    Being rejected does suck! Sorry to hear about your luck! I do hear you about wanting to make a few beans for your blog! I wish I could offer you some advice, but I’m in the same boat! Good luck and keep putting yourself out there!

    • April 24, 2015 / 5:27 am

      I know, Lucie, right?! We both need to just stick with it and keep doing what we enjoy. And this was excellent advice and encouragement! Thanks, girl!

  14. April 24, 2015 / 1:42 am

    Oh girl….we have all been there and no matter how successful you perceive other bloggers to be they really are in the exact same place as you. Everyone is turned down time to time even when they are “successful”. First off, don’t let any of it get to you! Most of it is luck, being at the right place at the right time. Only a small part of it is really talent. If there is one thing I’ve learned from blogging, it is to BE TRUE to yourself. The more honesty, heart and truth you put into your writing and blogging the more you will shine through. That feels more rewarding than any partnership or opportunity you will ever find. Take those wins and cherish them. No one can ever reward you as much as that. You’re doing all the right things for right now. Trust your path and everything will come together.

    • April 24, 2015 / 5:29 am

      Thank you, Megan, that’s so sweet. I think you’re very right about being true to yourself. If there’s one theme I hear constantly from successful bloggers, it’s that! I think this post is a testament to that! I’ve opened up and been very real and people have been so supportive and it really lifted my spirits and motivated me to keep at it. Thanks for being supportive and a source of inspiration, Megan. I truly look up to you!

  15. April 24, 2015 / 4:10 am

    Argh, sorry you had to deal with this but to be honest, I think many of us can and do relate to it. It hurts, but it only means there is a better calling somewhere else- You’re content is great and you should be proud!

    • April 24, 2015 / 5:31 am

      Arman, you saying my content is great is my equivalent to hanging out with a rock star! It makes me want to eat no bake breakfast cookies and drink champagne lol. Thank you so much for putting a smile on my face and being a source of inspiration!

  16. April 24, 2015 / 6:23 am

    Oh yeah, I can so relate to this post Erin!

    My food photographs seem to have no consistency in that some get accepted, but the majority get rejected from the major food websites. But then when I pin them, people seem to really like them. My numbers go up and down like a yo-yo from month to month and I try lots of different things to increase this monthly number, some work and some don’t. Sigh.

    So I’ve stopped looking at the numbers and I’m just concentrating on doing what I enjoy most. Which is the recipe development and writing articles. I’ll keep practicing at my photography. It’s enough of a struggle to fit everything in at the moment with my new job, without adding extra stress.

    Like you, I hope to earn some beans off my blog one day. But I’ve decided this is a 5 year plan, and I’m only just into year 2. 🙂

    I believe people will gravitate to our blogs in the long run because they like what they read, and the experience they get. I get that experience from your blog, enjoyment, humour, great fitness and nutrition information, recipes and fun. Keep it up. And I will too. Deal? 😀

    • April 24, 2015 / 6:30 am

      Oh, Neil, thank you SO much for such a sweet response. I, for one, think your photography is amazing and it is obvious to me that you have an eye for capturing things. You’re very right though, we have to focus on the things we know are our strengths and what we enjoy and that people will love us for that. Right now I have so much free time to worry about something so I’ve put it into my blog, which is great because I’m experiencing growth, but bad because I’m being too hard on myself. I’m sure once I’m working again I will have too much to worry about to make stressing over my blog a priority. I’m a worrier, and if I’m not worrying I’m thinking about what I can worry about lol.
      Mine is a five year plan too and I’m approaching 2 years. I guess only some people have insane success really quickly, and good for them. For me though, I think slow and steady will definitely win the race. I will keep it up if you do! You made my day, Neil. 🙂

  17. April 25, 2015 / 1:04 am

    First of all, I bookmarked your blog because you wrote the word “fucking” and I like real people who talk about the tough stuff. Second of all, here’s a quote for you that is in my top five favourite life-changing quotes ever: “He who risks and fails can be forgiven–he who never risks and never fails is a failure in his whole being.” -Paul Tillich. So if you like blogging, keep doing it. The risk of rejection is worth it.

    • April 25, 2015 / 9:11 am

      It’s so true. If it’s worth doing for any reason it’s worth the risk of rejection. It’s character building stuff! Imagine life without it? We’d never fully become ourselves! Glad you appreciated my “f” bomb, I just had to that time lol

  18. April 27, 2015 / 8:00 pm

    GIRL, I hear you! That JK Rowling quote completely sums it up. At the end of the day, if you don’t put your neck out there, you will never know what you are capable of! I think constant networking, seeking feedback, and making improvements is the best anyone can do. Every time I have a small victory I celebrate it, because I really came into it expecting nothing..and I have to remind myself of that constantly!!

    xx Jill
    Latest Post: Barre vs. Weight Lifting – Which One Helps You Lose Weight Faster?

    • April 27, 2015 / 8:27 pm

      You’re so right. I totally celebrate every time I get a comment lol. I’m really enjoying blogging and I know that my hard work has paid off in ways that I shouldn’t minimize so much. It’s nice to know that people can relate and share their encouragement! Thanks so much, Jill! <3

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