Hey, everybody! It’s been a while since I’ve done a fitness post!  Since I fill my days with workouts, I’ve created for my clients;  thought I would share one with you.  I LOVE workouts that are off the gym floor.  I have a confession:  I DON’T LIKE THE GYM.

Say WHAT?

 

I love working out, of course, but I don’t like gyms.  I know that sometimes you gotta take it inside, but what I like to do and how I roll with my clients can be done just about anywhere.  I like to create fun, varying, and functional workouts because they keep people interested and THEY WORK.

One of my ABSOLUTE favorite tools is the battle rope because it is so much fun AND I feel like a total badass after I use them.  So, badass, in fact, that, I feel like I could roll up on Rhonda Rousey …and still get my ass kicked in under three seconds.  I think that battle ropes should come with a warning on them because you do feel insanely tough after you use them and you could end up having your mouth write a check your ass can’t cash.

But I digress because I’m starting to make no sense.

If you have access to battle ropes or want to buy them to add to your fitness equipment collection, I’ve got an excellent workout for you that will not only burn a shitload of calories while increasing your strength and coordination, but it will also make you feel super empowered.

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 Battle Rope Workout!

 

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I tried this workout with my client, Kaly, this past Saturday and she was working up a sweat and having so much fun in the process (even in the miserable Glasgow rain that has made a comeback)! She was a good sport and let me take a few snapshots!

Incidentally, it’s hard capturing someone busting their butt with battling ropes, as she was!

battlerope CollageI love to keep workouts fun and exciting, and with battle ropes, you get just that.  Strength training and endurance rolled into one killer workout.  I HIGHLY recommend giving them a try if you want to mix things up and feel totally badass!

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Happy Tuesday!  I am linking up with Jessica and Jill for #DishTheFit and today’s optional topic is, “An Attitude of Gratitude.”  I had to participate, because I am in the process of getting my Life Performance Coaching certification as well as completing the Robbins-Madanes Strategic Interventionist Program (who doesn’t love Tony Robbins??)  to help enhance my personal training and nutritional therapy certifications.  I believe that all of my specializations go hand in hand, and I want to be able to help my clients break through whatever barriers are keeping them from being healthy and happy.

What’s an attitude of gratitude? It’s living your life from the perspective of being grateful for everything that is.

Including how to find gratitude in things that are less than what you believe you would like them to be.  

Your attitude of gratitude is finding your silver linings on a grander scale.  

A major lesson I am learning in my life coach training is finding a way to utilize all of my failures as a way to make the path for the greater things to come.

We’ve all had times in our lives where something we’ve put a lot of ourselves into didn’t work out.  There are not enough words to describe the negative emotions we feel when this type of rejection occurs, not to mention what it does to our motivation and self-esteem.

The truth is, we can learn to reprogram and internalize these negative experiences and transform the energy associated with them into positive choices and directions.

3 Steps For Finding A Silver Lining In Any Situation

  1. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this situation?”  Maybe you’ve lost your job, ended a significant relationship, or found out some crappy news in general.  Regardless of which end of the spectrum an event is perceived to be on, there’s always something to be learned — whether it’s about yourself, another person, or situation.  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you have to be more or less trusting.  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you didn’t feel happy in the job you lost (I’ve so been there on this one)!  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you need to take better care of yourself or start making your well-being a priority. Choosing to take a bad situation and turn it into a lesson learned will enable you to grow emotionally and spiritually.
  2. Ask yourself, “What am I able to do now that I wasn’t able to do before?”  In any situation, your opportunities will change.  Try to focus on how this opportunity will give you the ability to do something (or many things) you weren’t able to do before.  What skills did you gain from your last job?  If you’re out of a relationship or toxic friendship what time — more importantly energy — do you have to now devote to something that will make you happier, stronger, and more fulfilled?  Maybe now you’re more able to speak up for yourself and communicate what you do and don’t want out a relationship/friendship.  There is no way that you have not gained the ability to do something bigger and better today that you couldn’t have done yesterday.  Discover this, rebuild and go forward.
  3. Ask yourself, “Do I have perspective?”   Not to belittle yourself or your struggles, but if you can step back from any situation and answer yes to any, some, or all of the following, you’ve got a lot to be thankful for:
    Do I have my health?
    Do I have a place to live?
    Do I have clothes on my back?
    Do I have food to eat?
    Do I have a support system and people whom I love, and that love me?

While none of these things may seem like much to celebrate, take some time to appreciate each and every item. Being able to truly appreciate all that you do have going for you is the biggest silver lining of all.

Practicing an attitude of gratitude is all about appreciating everything for what it is, and sometimes that means having to search for that silver lining, appreciate it, and be content with life right now as it is.

Do you look for the silver lining in bad situations?  How do you practice an attitude of gratitude?

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Hey, readers!  I hope you had an awesome weekend.  According to my family back home, ranging from Maine to NYC, it was a very hot one.  Wanna know how the weather was in Glasgow?  I’ll let you guess.

Was it:

A) Raining

B) Overcast

C) Miserable

D) All of the above

If you answered “D” than you not only pay attention to how much I whine on here, but you’re also RIGHT!

In case you missed it, and by all means don’t worry if you did, it was my 35th birthday on Friday.

About every 3-4 birthdays, something ridiculous and unbirthday-like seems to happen to me.

  • On my 28th birthday, I got laid off from my job.  
  • On my 31st birthday, I was trapped on a direct Jet Blue flight from Denver to Boston behind an elderly man who crapped himself.  
  • On my 35th birthday, I spent most of the week leading up to (and including) my birthday in bed sick.

I suppose all the mishaps are a good foundation for my storytelling years.  Seeing as I watched the entire 7 seasons of The Golden Girls while I was bedridden, I think I’ve got all the makings of Sophia Petrillo or Rose Nylund type of story already.

After spending the majority of the last week of my 34th year in bed sick and becoming a bad smell to my neighbors, Luke and I decided to venture out to the Queens Park Farmers Market and a bit of lunch on Saturday.

The Farmers Market was kind of a letdown I must say.  I don’t know if it was because it was 58 degrees and windy as sh**, but there wasn’t any produce or cheese.  We pondered buying a bottle of chutney from one of the stands until a bunch of their display blew over as we approached.

Maybe it was gravity?

After that, we walked in the park and decided to get a bite at The Glad Cafe.  It’s such a cute spot!  I really love Glasgow’s Southside.  It reminds me of the Park Slope area of Brooklyn quite a bit. Try as I might to not be a hipster, I sort of like hipster neighborhoods.  And whatever, we’ve got the only Whole Foods in Scotland on the Southside.  And Highland Coos (cows).

coos in the park.

coos in the park.

Anyhoo, back to The Glad Cafe —  this place reminded me of the wardrobe in The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe in that it has a tiny door at the front and opens up to a magically large cafe out the back.

I had to borrow these photos due to the fact that I was even less active about taking photos with my stuffy nose and dull, annoying cough than I normally am.

I did take pictures of what we ate, however.

Luke got the basil and chicken sandwich on gluten free bread. He’s so disciplined and actually sticks to his dietary convictions on weekends.

glad

I ordered the hummus and bread plate because I like to eat appetizers as my main meal.  Really, I was more interested in drinking my delightful glass of Malbec.  I still really couldn’t taste anything, due to my lingering cold, which sort of makes hummus NOT good.  (I know, like how is that even possible?)

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Corn syrup over cough syrup.

So, my sister, Meredith, sent me a box full of all the candies I’ve been bitching about not having here in Scotland. I basically lived on ice lollies (popsicles to us Yankees) and corn syrup last week.  I’m SUCH a good role model, right?  Trust me, there IS such a thing as too much of a good thing.

one is the loneliest number.

one is the loneliest number. this was also the SECOND bag I ate.  gross.

One more thing I don’t care about at 35…

MY ROOTS.  Contrary to popular opinion, I am a natural blonde.  I was born blonde.  See!

classy from the womb.

classy from the womb.

That’s a classic from the toddler Erin archives.

So, I’ve discovered that if you’re just lazy enough about colouring your hair, you can actually keep up with the trends.  See, I’ve been overdue for a touch up for, like, approximately 6 weeks.  However, now I kind of have the whole ombre or ecaille hair thing going on.

lazy is the new trendy

Pretty cool, huh?  I actually think most of the hair color trends going on right now don’t focus too much on the natural look, so having dark roots isn’t the worst thing.

I’m a bad luck charm.

I have gone to quite a few football (soccer) matches with Luke, but I’ve never been to one where his team, Aberdeen Football Club, actually win!  So, due to a weird point based ticket purchasing scheme Aberdeen has (and whatever, I was useless and sick anyway) Luke could only get himself a ticket to the match.

So, Luke watched it from Dundee United’s stadium.

from the stadium...

from the stadium…

Whilst I watched from the sofa.

from the sofa...

from the sofa…

Anyway, my point is, Aberdeen won their match.  At first,  it was just a joke that I could possibly be causing them bad luck by being in physical attendance, but I think there may actually be some truth to that.

I know.  I really need to get over myself.

I hope you all had a great weekend and are having a wonderful Monday!

What did you do this weekend?  Do you believe in sports superstition?

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Happy Friday! Today I decided to make a light-hearted list, inspired by POPSUGAR — like earlier this week I saw their post — 15 Things You Stop Giving a Sh** About In Your 30s.  Well, being that today is my birthday, and I’m 35 years young, I thought I would add my spin to this list.

Also, I don’t mean to offend people here. If you take nothing else away from this, you will either agree or disagree with me, and be happy you’re still young enough at heart to formulate your opinions on these topics!

15 things I’ve stopped caring about at 35

  1. Other peoples’ lives. Seriously. I’m happy enough with mine, and I genuinely hope you’re happy with yours.
  2. Going to the hippest place to eat. I’ve never cared about this.  I hate waiting.  I’m cheap (mostly broke) and impatient.  I’ll admire your foodporn on Instagram and keep eating my spiralized squash, thanks!
  3. Missing out. FOMO — I’m so OLD I had to google what the hell the acronym, “FOMO” even means.  In case you’re confused as well, it means  “Fear Of Missing Out”  The only things I am afraid I’m missing out on these days are amazing Groupon deals and the latest episodes of Pretty Little Liars. #WhoIsA ????
  4. Making a big deal about birthdays. This list IS my big deal about my birthday.  I DID have plans to go out, but being ill this week made me have to cancel.  Boo!
  5. Being friends with people who are jerks. I did the jerk purge when my father got ill several years back, and I realized that life is too short.  That said,  I don’t want to hold grudges, but I also don’t want to make time for you if you’re a d-bag.  There are plenty of people who probably will though, and they’ll probably also wait an hour to eat at a trendy overpriced restaurant too.  #YoureBetterOffWithoutMe
  6. Keeping up with all the current trends. I despise most of the clothes I see in stores these days.  I walk out with one or no items whenever I attempt to shop.  Apparently, the 90’s are trendy again, and I will never get it.  Also, I will NEVER own an iPhone and I only have my current phone, because my husband convinced me it would make my blogging life easier.  It has.
  7. Your wrinkles. I don’t think my lines are that bad …yet.  I stayed out of the sun most of my 20’s, and now I live in the UK where the sun is a myth legend.  If I stay hydrated and borrow my husband’s fancy face creams, I should be okay!
  8. Drama. I reserve my drama quota for the five episodes of Coronation Street I watch each week.  As for entertaining it personally?  I’ve got zero time or desire for that kind of energy expenditure.
  9. The occasional splurge.   I have a hard time spending money on myself.  Mostly, because I spent my life savings getting married and moving over to Scotland.  I guess that’s me splurged until retirement; if I’m lucky enough to live that long.  Imagine what I won’t care about at 65?!
  10. The latest fashion craze. See #6.  I LOATHE 90% of the clothes that are popular now.  I saw acid washed overalls for £25 ($39 USD) the other day.  Needless to say, I walked out of the shop totally confused in every conceivable way.
  11. Getting your money’s worth out of an open bar. I have the potential to want to do this still, but the last hangover I had was about all I could take.  The older you get, the worse and more wicked a hangover can be. Trust me.
  12. Getting the first edition of new technology. Again, see #6.  I honestly don’t care.  I get a new phone, laptop, etc. when the one I have broken (or becomes incompatible with other things I own).  I don’t care.  I like to experience life firsthand whenever possible.
  13. Keeping up with social media. I’m far too lazy for social media.  The only thing I sorta use is Instagram, and only because it’s so easy.  I suck entirely at Pinterest and honestly I should probably just delete my account because I have like 20 followers AND once I go on, it’s like a black hole on my productivity. Also, as I said, I’m lazy.   I like blogs.  You can read a blog if you like it and avoid it if you don’t want to.  That’s basically why I have like 30 subscribers.  Probably less after this post?
  14. Documenting every single moment of your life. If you’re reading this blog, you know that I don’t do this.  I omit the moments of my life when nothing worthwhile happens, which is basically why I create 1-2 posts per week these days.
  15. What people think about you. You can’t please everyone, and I’m not about to start trying.  If you don’t like me, that’s fine.  We’re not always going to be everybody’s cup of tea, and with fewer people, during tea time there are more biscuits for yours truly.

Are you “bah humbugged” out enough, yet?  I hope everybody has a great weekend! Can you believe it’s August tomorrow??  2015 has been the fastest year, am I right?

Do you find you care less about (some) things the older (I mean WISER) you get?

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Why I’m Happy, My Husband Pointed Out My Worst Quality

(And why it’s not a BAD thing.)

For the 12 years before marrying my husband, Luke, I jumped from one unhealthy relationship to another.

I always had something missing in every relationship.

I had something missing alright, but it wasn’t the need for a boyfriend.

I needed to find meaning in my life and work through the issues which were causing me to be so lonely and miserable.

The importance of being alone

I have had some DARK times in the past half decade.  I lost my father,  lost my sense of identity, and for a short while, lost hope that I could ever be happy or find a healthy connection with another human being.  I would push people away like it was my job, but I never understood I WAS PUSHING myself away from those people by being destructively passive aggressive, which not only brought the worst out in myself but also brought out the worst in my partners.

Why was I destructively passive aggressive?  Well, because for the majority of my relationships I was depressed, anxious, unhappy, and suffering from an eating disorder. As well, every time I got out of a relationship, I would vow that I would take the time to be alone and deal with myself.

I pledged to everyone (except myself, obviously) that I would soul search and I wouldn’t make the same mistake with the next partner.

Now, If you’re anything like I am, you would do just about anything to get outside of your head.  But in order to “deal with your own stuff” — you gotta sit with it, break it apart, work it out, and make peace with it if you REALLY want to grow.

So, if there’s one thing I have learned it’s this:  The only way you can start to soul search, is to become comfortable with being alone.

Along came Luke

When I first met my husband, it was as all other connections go.

You know what I mean, right?  I’m talking about that period when the other person can have no faults and do no wrong — and neither can you.

The building blocks for “false happiness” — according to the relationships, I was used to cultivating.

Then we had our first disagreement, and his reaction wasn’t like the others I had ALWAYS encountered in the past:  he didn’t nurture my need to feel like a victim.  

I was like…

Of course, I didn’t realize all of this at first, but my husband’s immediate call to action about my self-victimization was HUGE for me.  What I never actually realized before was this:  I NEEDED to be a victim.

Everything was always happening TO me.  I convinced myself that I had zero control over the unfolding of my life and relationships, which honestly, is funny (and not in a “haha” kind of way) considering just how much CONTROL I needed to (feel) I  had over everybody else.

At first, I didn’t know how to feel about how Luke had reacted to me, but then I reflected and played the conversation back and forth in my mind.  I realized that I turned what he had intended as a funny comment to on that felt like I had been emotionally blindsided and wounded.

Much like I couldn’t process what had happened, neither could Luke.  He immediately said (and I will never forget this),

It seems, to me, like you’re playing a bit of a victim right now, Erin.

I was like…

However, he was right.

It wasn’t immediate, but in the days and weeks following that conversation, I began to evaluate my past relationships.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t using Post-It’s to create flow charts of all my previous relationships (romantic or otherwise) trying to draw connections between my actions and why things hadn’t worked out.

However, it was a major Oprah-style “Aha!” moment for me.

I also refused to see this quality as something I forced myself into not like about myself.  I had learned to be more forgiving of my self-criticisms (and judgments toward others) on the outside.

I had learned how to be alone with myself and allow the universe to provide me with limitless possibilities (if I let it be so).

However, this victim crap was the quality that had sabotaged so much of my happiness for far too long.

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The power of knowing my worst quality

Have you ever noticed that throughout life we often end up hurting the people we love the most?

Do you ever really stop and think about WHY this is?

Or do you spend too much time focusing your battle scars on looking at the situation objectively?

The truth is, we’re all walking around bruised and battered in this life.  However, some of us embrace these scars, and some of us walk around projecting them onto others and repeating cycles of pain and emotional turmoil, subconsciously or not.

I might sound like I’m back-stepping a bit here, but it wasn’t my fault when I was projecting and playing a victim in the past.  I was only ignorant to my behavior.  However, now that I know I possess this quality, and have the awesome responsibility of not only being aware of it but also for making sure it doesn’t harm myself or anybody I love in the future.

With great responsibility comes great power.  

Yes, I said that the way I meant it to read.

The very fact that we are all responsible for our happiness gives us a tremendous amount of power to cultivate it.  Being given the responsibility of owning my unsavory habit of playing the victim in emotional situations has forced me to harness the power not only to choose NOT to be a victim but also the power to have a deeper and more insightful connection with the people I care about the most.

Insight is one of (if not) the most valuable and powerful things a person can have in their life.  So, if someone cares for you enough to let you know when you lack crucial insight, it’s important to take the time to sit with it, break it apart, work it out, and make peace with it.

Has anyone you love ever told you a harsh truth about yourself?  Do you believe that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind?  What’s one harsh truth about yourself that has prompted a significant change in your life?

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