Happy Saturday and Valentine’s Day Eve!  Now, I’m not one to go mad about Valentine’s Day.  I agree that flowers and love and all that good stuff are nice 365 days a year.  Believe me, I spent my fair share of V-Days drinking wine straight out of the bottle and telling people holding hands that they are rude.  I’ve become less bitter.

…Okay, I still drink wine straight out of the bottle (on occasion!).

Anyhoo, if you want to send something cool and unique to a loved one this Valentine’s Day, there’s a really cool app created by ASDA called, “Send Your Heart” App and it sends your actual heartbeat in a musical message via your phone.  It’s super cool!

I sent one to Luke via text message and this is what it looks like.

ASDA #SendYourHeart App

When you press on the play arrow in the center of the heart it plays your actual heartbeat along with the beat of music.

It’s a fun and easy way to send love out to people on Valentine’s Day and it’s great for people who live far away but are always near to our hearts.  Great for expats like yours truly!

Pretty sweet, right?

The app is free and can be installed on both Andriod and iOS.

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Who will you send your heartbeat to this Valentine’s Day?

***This post is part of a sponsored campaign through the BlogHer Social Media Influencer program for ASDA’s Send Your Heart app.  Even though I will be compensated for my participation, all opinions are my own.   

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We do not see things are they are.  We see things as we are.

-Anais Nin

Have you ever been in a mental fog?  I’m sure you have.  I know that I have been so many more times than I can count.  The problem with experiencing mental fog and tunnel vision is that we tend to lack the perspective we need to broaden our thought horizons.  In other words, we only digest one version of everything we experience.

For instance, I used to suffer from repeating the same mistakes in every relationship I had.  It was quite foolish looking back now because the scenario never worked out the way I thought I wanted it to, and that was because I kept doing the same things and expecting different results.   I believe they call this the “definition of insanity.”    I wouldn’t go that far, but I will say that the less open we are to insight and self-examination, the more likely we are never to break out of habitual patterns of self-destruction.

Wahey, that’s a mouthful, right?

So, today’s intention is clarity.  Clarity is all about seeing “the big picture” and allowing ourselves to gain beneficial personal insights.  We may not always like what we learn about ourselves, but when you can discover ways that you may be sabotaging your happiness it’s beyond valuable.  In my post, Why I’m Happy My Husband Pointed Out My Worst QualityI talked about how my husband pointed out my chronic habit of feeling like a victim.  At first, I felt insulted and uncomfortable about his insights, but giving myself time to separate from all the content of my “story,” I was able to see that yes, I had in fact been sabotaging connections because spent so much time feeling like I was under attack.

I’m not convinced that I wouldn’t have been able to gain this valuable insight to myself without my husband because clarity is something we gain from within ourselves but I am fortunate enough to have ended up with someone who loves me enough to want me to live a happy and drama-free life.

Tips for achieving clarity in your life

  • Spend time with people who have values and goals in alignment with your own.
  • Limit mind-numbing television and social media scrolling and replace those activities with reading motivational books or time outdoors in nature.
  • Visualize yourself free of drama and how you ideally would want to resolve problems or setbacks you may be facing.
  • Eat more unrefined foods and limit the toxins and stimulants you take in. Caffeine and alcohol can significantly impair clarity.
  • Keep track of your goals, whatever they are!

And now for today’s Daily Intention Workout!

Daily Intentions Workout

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Daily Intentions Workout Challenge

Do you seek clarity in your life?

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Happy Friday! This week has been super stressful, but I was able to accomplish things way ahead of schedule so let’s pop champagne for that! (Unless you don’t drink in which case have some chocolate?)

This week’s posts were all about addressing some of the areas we can let negativity dictate our lives without even knowing it. Whether is’s giving yourself ultimatums, taking criticisms personally, or the inability to accept compliments — we have got to be better aware and to shift the way we talk to ourselves.

Today I want to share a video with you that is one of my absolute favourites. I don’t know if you’re familiar with the London-based psychologist, Marisa Peer, but if you’re not, you should be. This video is a talk she gave at AwesomeFest called, “The Biggest Disease Affecting Humanity: I Am Not Enough” and it is brilliant. If you have ever asked yourself the question, “Am I enough?” this talk is for you.

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I wanted to close off the week with this inspirational video.

And something for you to print out and put on your mirror/desk/computer/wherever.

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You’re welcome.

Have a great weekend!

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Why I couldn't accept compliments

Happy Thursday, everybody. Wow, it’s January 21st already, and we’re three weeks into 2016. Crazy! How are you doing with any resolutions or changes you are looking to make for yourself this year?

One of the changes I want to make this year is to stop suffering from the “compliment complex.” I’m linking up with Amanda at Running with Spoons for Thinking Out Loud today to talk about something I think most of us are suffering from (especially women) — how to start accepting compliments.

 

I cringe whenever I even think about how difficult it is for most of us to accept praise. We say things like, “oh this old thing” or “shut up, I haven’t lost weight” or “you’re crazy, I’m not amazing” to the slightest amount of praise. There are only two words we ever really need to say when somebody gives us a compliment, and yet, we rarely ever say them: Thank you.

I am still in shock whenever someone says something like that they love my hair, or they think I have lovely cheekbones. I am always looking to see if the person saying it to me is talking to me or someone standing behind me. Once I (hopefully) discern that they are in fact addressing me, my first reaction is to say, “my hair is terrible, it’s thin, and a disaster” or “my face is broad.” Instead of just accepting that person’s praise I not only refute it but argue that they are ‘seeing things’ that aren’t so. Or, I take it as far as putting something else on myself down so that I can justify accepting praise.

“Just take the compliment” — is what my inner voice wants to hear when I bounce praise off myself, but even still, I can’t seem just to shut up and) take the compliment.

Why is it so difficult to accept complimentary statements others make about us? Why does it make us feel so uncomfortable?

Years ago, while I was living in New York, I used to have this one particular friend. She was well-educated, attractive, and friendly. In fact, we ultimately became friends because she once complimented my shoes at a bar. This friend was so different from most of the women I had been surrounded by in my twenties. For starters because of how accomplished she was, but mostly because she would always say, “thank you” when complimented. I remember thinking to myself, “this might be the first friend I’ve ever had who wouldn’t sandwich compliments with self-deprecation rebuttals. ”

I have to admit — despite the fact I liked her, I had a hard time understanding how easy it was for her to accept such praise without tearing something else about herself down.

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I know that sounds ridiculous, but I mean, I had gotten used to hearing everyone else doing everything they could to talk other people out of any positive decisions they made about them, and this girl was just like, “I know.”

How dare she just accept it when somebody tells her she’s beautiful or smart?

But what made me the most uncomfortable about her was how she used to compliment others (including yours truly). For a while, I had convinced myself that she was only doing it so I would give her compliments back. Instead of finding my friend confident and kind, I was suspicious of her motives and decided she was arrogant.

Why I Couldn’t Accept Compliments

Looking back now, I can honestly say that the reason my friend’s confidence made me feel uncomfortable was that I was envious of her.

What took me years to understand was that I wasn’t envious of her in the sense that I wish I looked like her or had her job or anything like that. I was envious of her because she could find a place inside of herself that said, “I’m going to be gracious and accept kind words about myself from others.” Let’s face it; we are living in a society where many people tear one another down as a means to feel better about themselves. How dare any of us believe in ourselves or say kind things about others.  The truth was, I spent most of my life tearing myself down because I didn’t feel like there was anything praise-worthy about me.

All my life, I’ve heard the phrase, “self-praise is no praise.” But if you ask me now, self-praise is the only way we can accept any praise at all. It’s not arrogant to think highly of yourself or your capabilities; it seems quite foolish not to. Speaking from my experience, I know I have struggled with accepting compliments due to my low self-esteem. However, for others, it has less to do with their self-esteem and more to do with them having been conditioned to be humble when it comes to accepting praise. After all, confident people can be labeled as arrogant, and that is too bad in many cases.

The reality is this: When we receive complimentary statements, it is because someone is trying to connect or identify with us. When somebody we know or even a complete stranger says something kind about us whether it’s our nail polish color or an idea we’ve had, we have a responsibility to ourselves and greater humanity to take a moment to allow our inner voices to change the conversation between our ears. I believe, if more of us can step up and own the praise we receive, the more of us there will be to give it genuinely in exchange. Confidence should not be considered a stigma.

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So, the next time you receive a compliment just smile and say “thank you” and pay it forward.

Do you have trouble accepting compliments?

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are you living your life with passion

HEY, Readers!  You know, I read somewhere that bloggers shouldn’t apologize for their lack of posting.  Apparently, nobody cares.  Well, I do.  I feel terrible about my lack of attention to this blog.  I’m not a parent (yet…) but in a lot of ways, I feel like Beets Per Minute is my baby and lately I’ve been a severely neglectful mother.

So, LOTS has been going on in my world!  My husband, Luke, ran his first half-marathon ever this past Sunday by participating in the Great Scottish Run.  He did a TERRIFIC job finishing at one hr 53 minutes.  I’m so very proud of him and love that he raised over £400 for Cancer Research UK in honor of my late father.  The run was a fantastic event with over 30,000 people participating including Neil from Neil’s Healthy Meals, who ran in the 10k beforehand!  I met up with Neil, his wife, Lynne, and their friend, Catherine (who was fun to meet as I read all about her on his blog)!  Catherine was there supporting her husband, Liam (also a star on Neil’s blog!) as he also completed the half-marathon in the group just behind Luke’s!

all smiles after completing!!

all smiles after finishing!!

Yeah, okay, so the Great Scottish Run was ONE day, but there are other things going on….

 

 

Are you living life with passion?

A couple of weeks ago, as I was slacking scrolling my Instagram feed, I came across the following quote:

As I’ve gone through life,  I’ve found that your chances for happiness are increased if you wind up doing something that is a reflection of what you loved  most when you were somewhere between nine and eleven years old.

-Walter Murch

A reflection of what you loved most when you were somewhere between nine and eleven years old.

Fascinating.

When I was between the ages of nine and eleven, I loved skiing, gymnastics, dancing classes and creative writing.

Now, I can hardly do a round-off triple back handspring on my lawn any longer.  Mostly because I don’t have a lawn, but also because I am pretty sure I’d break my neck if I tried.

However, I’ve loved becoming a trainer —  working to help people get healthy — and blogging has refreshed my love of writing.

 I am doing what I loved the most between the ages of nine and eleven and it has increased my level of happiness.

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Am I lucky?  Yes.  However, not in the way you think.  I’m still struggling financially and what they say is true that you “have to spend money to make money.”  However, finances and nail-biting aside, I wake up every day with the sense of purpose and passion that was missing for nearly decades of my life.

What if you could “time hop” back to a point when you were completely passionate about something?  What would you discover about yourself right now?  Would you say that you do something in your life right now that reflects those interests recreationally and professionally?

Whether it’s professionally or recreationally, is there something that used to bring you joy and comfort that you have lost along the way?

Perhaps, it wasn’t when you were aged nine to eleven. However, there must have been a time when the complications of adulthood and greater responsibilities were not your primary concern, and something put a genuine smile on your face.

Do me a favor.  If your life feels uninspired or unhappy right now, think about what you were passionate about at a young age and find a way to incorporate more of that into your life right now.

Even if it’s just coloring or building a Lego village.

Increase your level of happiness.  You’re worth it.

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 If you had to base your livelihood on a time when you were full of passion, what would you be doing right now?  Are you doing this already?

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