“Is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me.”
Warning: Rant! How about this blog post title? Who’s got their claws out? Haha, nah, it’s not like that. Well, really, it sort of is.
This morning I was out running some errands for my upcoming wedding, and I stopped in a little pub to have some lunch. While sitting there, minding my own business, I couldn’ t help but overhear two women sat in the booth directly behind me. The waitress we had was a little on the heavy side. Now sure, I notice other women’s bodies, because I have my own insecurities, and hey, it’s human nature. However, what I was listening to on the other side of that booth was atrocious.
“They shouldn’t let fat people serve food in this place – it’s supposed to be a health conscious establishment – it makes me not even want to eat.”
This is what one of the women seated behind me said to her friend about our waitress and what’s worse was the poor girl heard her! I don’t want to be a hypocrite, because there was a point in my life where I might have had that same thought. However, I was wrong to have ever thought so negatively, so a grown woman should know better than to think it, let alone say it, within earshot of another living, breathing human being.
I wanted so badly, and imagined in my mind (à la Ally McBeal) that this girl would come over with the check and ask “seriously, did anyone ask your opinion about whether or not I should work here?” Or say something like, “they shouldn’t let judgmental and ignorant people eat in public, but hey, the World’s an imperfect place.” It would have made my day.
I don’t know about you, but judgment is getting WAY out of control these days. I don’t blame the Internet, because obviously intolerance and judgment are as old as dirt, but I do feel that it has made us all feel much more free with our opinions. For instance, today one of the biggest Twitter discussions is about Renee Zellweger’s face. People have judged her for everything from her weight to the shape of her eyes over the last decade. Leave the woman alone, again, did she ask for an opinion? Also, there’s NOTHING else going on today more pressing or worthy of an “opinion” than the flaws found in complete strangers?
Same people that made jokes about Renee Zellweger’s old face are making jokes about her new face. We’re the problem, folks.
— Stereo Williams (@stereowilliams) October 21, 2014
I hear Renee Zellweger is in the news today. I assume because of the beautiful and moving speech she gave at Sunday’s Walk to Defeat ALS.
— Bumptious Ms. B (@angelinaburnett) October 21, 2014
Seriously, unless somebody asks, why feel the need to leave a nasty, critical comment? Why should another person even care what is thought about them? I’m taking a risk even sharing what I think right now. Like, who the hell am I to have an opinion about having an opinion?! Wow! I’m dizzy now.
The only thing I can say is the next time it seems like two cents are desired, ask, “is this person asking for an opinion?” If they want an opinion, give it. Believe me, I am full of opinions, and not all of them are sunshine and rainbows.
The point I am trying (and possibly failing) to make here is this: There’s a time and a place for thoughts and judgments,. However, unless someone actually wants an opinion, 99% of the time, that time and place is just plain ol’ kept to oneself.
Okay, I’m done.
Do you ever catch yourself being judgmental?