In every facet of our lives, we must be in touch with what motivates us. Without knowing our motivations, we cannot get to the very core of what makes us who we are.
Why is this important?
It’s important because it’s what’s within us that is our true self. Everything else is a result of our mental conditioning.
We become our thoughts. And, when our thoughts are not positive or self-fulfilling, they create this alternative self that we believe ourselves to be in place of the person we truly are deep down at our very core.
I know this because I thought I wasn’t good enough for anything or anyone. I walked around the world not believing in myself and giving others permission not to believe in me either. It was a hopeless cycle because when others didn’t believe in me, it confirmed my belief that I wasn’t good enough.
Are you dizzy yet? You probably are, because living like this is like being on an emotional Tilt-A-Whirl.
However, there is a stop button, and you have control over it. In fact, not only can you stop this dizzying ride but you can get off of it and leave it behind for good.
3 Actions To Fight Your Inner Conflicts
I know it seems pretty simplistic to say that just three steps which can improve your life, but it’s the power of these measures that make them so profound.
Start small with these steps, and you will be on your way to living a less dramatic and more productive, meaningful existence.
Are you ready for them?
Action 1: Stop
That’s it. Just stop.
For instance, when I started my wellness journey after the death of my father, I was doing these three steps without even realizing it.
I stopped eating poorly. I started exercising and paying attention to what I was eating. I let myself be proactive about my health and happiness. When something isn’t working for you, the very first thing you need to do is figure out what you can take control of and stop.
You must do something to interrupt the addictive emotional patterns.
So, in my case, I was tired of feeling empty and insignificant. I was sick of using food and alcohol to numb myself while I continued to wonder why nothing in my life was going right.
I was tired of feeling like I had no control over anything; including myself.
I had programmed myself to believe that being a shell of a person was enough for me and that it was all that I deserved. All the while, inside of me, was that confident, active, and intelligent person hidden under years of conditioning myself to feel otherwise.
I was sick of using food and alcohol to numb myself while I continued to wonder why nothing in my life was going right.
The person I was meant to be was hidden away under all of that self-destructive behavior and unhappiness. The first step I had to take to get back to my real self, was to interrupt the emotional pattern that was limiting me. By discontinuing the negative behaviors, I did have control over (food choices, overeating, and inactivity).
Action 2: Start
The beginning of a journey of self-rediscovery and leading a more passionate life is to stop focusing on what you think you can’t do. If you feel like it’s a hopeless situation, these two steps will help you a) getting out of your comfort zone and b)raising your standards.
It may seem like an impossible task, but even a baby step outside of your comfort zone is an accomplishment, and a will start allowing newer and healthier habits to take hold. When I decided to eat healthier and exercise five days a week, it was far from comfortable. I wanted to quit at first, but I just kept reminding myself that if I didn’t make this commitment to myself, I wouldn’t be able to commit to anything else either. I raised my standards for myself, and it leads to many additional positive changes and opportunities.
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Action 3: Become
Once the negative cycle has stopped and you have started to do things that break you out of your comfort zone, you will see yourself emerge and become the person you have always been meant to be.
The third step is when you come into your “ideal self.” The self who has been inside of you all of your life. The one who can finally stand up to all of your negative self-talk and claims of incapability
When you finally decide you’ve got to make a change if you stop with the negative and start with the positive your true self will have no choice but to become evident to you and the world around you.
The inner conflict that I felt for so many years was due to the battle that my head waged against my heart. I finally decided I had to stop letting it continue. I finally decided I had to start changing my ways. I finally became who I was always meant to be, and beautiful and positive things began to come into my life.
There are still cloudy days, and there are still struggles, but I know that the Erin I am today can weather all storms.
Are you struggling with inner conflict? If you are, you’re not alone, and it is clear that the solutions to what you feel conflicted about most are already within you.